COMMUNICATION AND RELATIONSHIPS -- RELATED SCRIPTURE AND QUOTES: LISTENING "Let your Yes be your Yes and your No be your No." "God created people with two ears and one mouth." "He who answers before listening -- that is his folly and his shame." Proverbs 18:13 "My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry" James 1:19 "God gave you two ends to use: heads, you win; tails, you lose." ANGER AND DEALING WITH CONFLICTS "If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over. But if he will not listen, take one or two others along, so that every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church; and if he refuses to listen even to the church, treat him as you would a pagan or a tax collector." Matthew 18:15-17 "A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control." Proverbs 29:11 "In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry" Ephesians 4:26 "My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry" James 1:19 LOVE "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs." I Corinthians 13:4-5 "Love your neighbor as yourself." Matthew 19:19 "Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves." Romans 12:9-10 "...Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires." Song of Solomon 2:7, 3:5 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her" Ephesians 5:25 "Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends." John 15:13 "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." Colossians 3:19 "Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God." I John 4:7 "Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs." Proverbs 10:12 EQUALITY "Submit to each other out of reverence to the Lord." Ephesians 5:21 "Our desire is not that others might be relieved while you are hard pressed, but that there might be equality." II Corinthians 8:13 FRIENDSHIP "Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God." I John 4:7 "A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." Proverbs 18:24 "A perverse man stirs up dissension, and a gossip separates close friends." Proverbs 16:28 "Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends." John 15:13 ENCOURAGEMENT/SUPPORT "Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing." I Thessalonians 5:11 "But encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness." Hebrews 3:13 "Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another -- and all the more as you see the Day approaching." Hebrews 10:25 HONESTY "A truthful witness gives honest testimony, but a false witness tells lies." Proverbs 12:17 "Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices" Colossians 3:9 SELF-ESTEEM "Love your neighbor as yourself." Matthew 19:19 (EMPHASIS: AS YOURSELF -- Love your neighbor as you love yourself). "For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." Psalm 139:13-14 "How can you see God if you are always looking for the negative?" --James A. Johnson "Instead of `What's wrong?', `What's right?'" --Jeff Oliver "Are not two sparrows sold for a penny? Yet not one of them will fall to the ground apart from the will of your Father. And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So don't be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows." Matthew 10:29-31 (You are of value!) "For He chose us in Him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in His sight." Ephesians 1:4 (You are chosen!) "Jesus found you worth dying for on the cross." --James A. Johnson