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How You Act In Conflicts

The proverbs listed below can be thought of as descriptions of some of the different strategies for resolving conflicts. Proverbs state traditional wisdom, and these proverbs reflect traditional wisdom for resolving conflicts. Read each of the proverbs carefully. Using the following scale, indicate how typical each proverb is of your actions in a conflict:

5=very typical of the way I act in a conflict
4=frequently typical of the way I act in a conflict
3=sometimes typical of the way I act in a conflict
2=seldom typical of the way I act in a conflict
1=never typical of the way I act in a conflict

  1. It is easier to refrain than to retreat from a quarrel.
  2. If you cannot make a person think as you do, make him or her do as you think.
  3. Soft words win hard hearts.
  4. You scratch my back, I'll scratch yours.
  5. Come now and let us reason together.
  6. When two quarrel, the person who keeps silent first is the most praiseworthy.
  7. Might overcomes right.
  8. Smooth words make smooth ways.
  9. Better half a loaf than no bread at all.
  10. Truth lies in knowledge, not in majority opinion.
  11. He who fights and runs away lives to fight another day.
  12. He hath conquered well that hath made his enemies flee.
  13. Kill your enemies with kindness.
  14. A fair exchange brings no quarrel.
  15. No person has the final answer, but every person has a piece to contribute.
  16. Stay away from people who disagree with you.
  17. Fields are won by those who believe in winning.
  18. Kind words are worth much and cost little.
  19. Tit for tat is fair play.
  20. Only the person who is willing to give up his or her monopoly on truth can ever profit from the truths that others hold.
  21. Avoid quarrelsome people as they will only make your life miserable.
  22. A person who will not flee will make others flee.
  23. Soft words ensure harmony.
  24. One gift for another makes good friends.
  25. Bring your conflicts into the open and face them directly; only then will the best solution be discovered.
  26. The best way of handling conflicts is to avoid them.
  27. Put your foot down where you mean to stand.
  28. Gentleness will triumph over anger.
  29. Getting part of what you want is better than not getting anyting at all.
  30. Frnakness, honesty, and trust will move mountains.
  31. There is nothing so important you have to fight for it.
  32. There are two kinds of people in the world: the winners and the losers.
  33. When one hits you with a stone, hit him or her with a piece of cotton.
  34. When both give in halfway, a fair settlement is achieved.
  35. By digging and digging, the truth is discovered.


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